Can we have fun in church? Like, really have a good time and take pleasure in God’s world in church? I’m not asking if it is possible, or if that is the purpose of church, but if we are even capable of allowing ourselves to have fun in church.
A couple of weeks ago in church the topic was having faith like a child. The teaching time ended with our pastor throwing bouncy balls around the room instigating an all-church ball fight followed by finger-painting and blowing bubbles. Yes, my church is a tad quirky. But what I took away from that morning was not so much the childlikeness of these acts, but how odd it was for people to allow themselves to have fun in church. We were tearing down our barriers, abandoning church propriety, and simply allowing ourselves to be in the moment enjoying life. It felt good.
Now I am one of the first to argue that the point of church shouldn’t be to attract and entertain the masses. Coming to church to hear what we want to hear and sing our favorite songs has very little to do with following Jesus. But neither does checking our personalities at the door and assuming a generic “churchgoer” persona every time we gather at church. For some churches that involves pretending that monotone recitation and droning songs are actually soul-inspiring and their preferred way to express their spirituality. For others it’s dressing up in the church costume (never been in fashion anywhere anytime dowdy skirts, ugly floral shirts, dark hose, and unstylish yet still uncomfortable shoes), clutching that oversized study-Bible, taking sermon notes you will never read again, and mindlessly singing lyrics you don’t really believe while hoping no one finds out that you really enjoy Lady Gaga and had a couple of beers with friends the night before. For most churches personality and pleasure are so denigrated that the idea of allowing oneself to have fun in church (or even admit that you have fun outside of church) is beyond comprehension.
But if we can’t enjoy God’s diverse creation and express our true selves when we gather as the body of Christ, where can we? I know life shouldn’t be dichotomized into sacred and secular, but it seems like we’ve divided it in truth into church and then all the places we really experience God. Why is spiritual joy constrained to uncomfortable pews when just about every person in those pews would admit that they experience far more joy at a day at the lake with friends or playing a game of catch with their kids? Why do we have to turn to TV and dinner clubs to connect with others who can express with us the intense pleasures to be found in good food? For that matter, why are our blog conversations about theology far more meaningful that what we get at church? Sure, I get that all of life can be called “church,” but so why is real life kept away from the place where we gather as the church? God created us to experience pleasure, to take joy in the wonders of creation and the church has decided to blatantly ignore that part of ourselves within its walls.
I know it goes against our cultural conditioning to allow ourselves to be who God created us to be as we gather as a church, but I wish having fun in church wasn’t so taboo. Throwing bouncy balls around in church felt weird because it was weird. We let down our guard and enjoyed the moment. We let the lines between the church façade and the enjoyment of life blur for a moment and something magical happened. I’m not saying here that we should get rid of structured church, or teaching, or songs and liturgy, just allow God to be bigger than all those things. God gave us so much in this world to take pleasure and find joy in, why do we pretend to ignore that in church as if we are ashamed of God’s gifts? Let’s have fun in church, or at least stop hiding and start embracing and celebrating the holiness of how created us to experience and enjoy pleasure. We all already admit such things are from God, why do we act otherwise when we gather as the body of Christ?